213. Am I Defined By Betrayal?

You were betrayed.

That's something that happened to you.

But has it become who you are?

After discovering an affair, it's natural to want answers. You read the books, listen to podcasts, join support groups and spend countless hours trying to understand what happened and how to recover.

And much of that work can be incredibly valuable.

But what happens when healing stops being something you're doing and starts becoming part of your identity?

When your days revolve around understanding your triggers, assessing your progress and trying to work out whether you've healed enough, it's worth asking whether the recovery process is still helping you move forward.

Or whether it's become something familiar that you're reluctant to move beyond.

In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores how the identity of being betrayed can sometimes become a source of protection, and how the very activities intended to help us recover might inadvertently keep betrayal at the centre of our lives.

In this episode:

Why betrayal can become a significant part of how we understand ourselves

How the activity of healing can sometimes protect the identity of being betrayed