918. The red flags you’re WIRED to ignore: How childhood wounds shape your relationships + self-worth

In this episode, attachment expert + relationship educator Dr. Sarah Hensley (aka The Love Doc) joins Krista to unpack why modern dating feels harder than ever—and how our attachment styles shape the relationships we choose, the red flags we overlook, and the love we believe we deserve. 

Sarah gets into the complicated dynamics of narcissism, emotional unavailability, and trauma bonds, sharing how childhood experiences can influence the way we show up in love. She reveals why we over-function in relationships, how criticism can reinforce disconnection, and why understanding someone’s behavior is not the same as excusing it.

Drawing from her own experiences, Sarah shares what it takes to break painful relationship patterns + move toward more secure, healthy love. This conversation will change how you see your past relationships—and what you look for in the next one.

We also talk about: 

Fearful avoidance vs. dismissive avoidance

The difference between attachment patterns + personality disorders

How to recognize emotional manipulation + weaponized incompetence

Why some people shut down instead of repairing conflict

The connection between parentification + over-functioning in love

Why betrayal blindness can make red flags harder to see

The cycle of love-bombing, devaluation + discard

Why some partners return after a breakup—and what may be driving it