Why You Keep Saying Yes | Dr. Alena Čandová #107

Why You Keep Saying Yes When You’re Already Overloaded | Dr. Alena Čandová

Knowing you need better boundaries doesn’t always make it easier to set them. Why does a late-night message feel impossible to ignore? And why do good intentions disappear when the working week gets hectic?

In this episode of Busy Pro Fast Wellness, Alan speaks with Dr. Alena Čandová, a Doctor of Chiropractic, neuro-coach and author of Grace Over Grit: The Neuroscience of Claiming Your Inner Authority.

Alena shares her perspective on how learned protective patterns can influence everyday decisions, from replying immediately to emails to accepting work you haven’t got time for. The conversation explores how curiosity and self-compassion can help create space for a different response.

She also recounts a revealing experience at a silent retreat in Bali, where extending compassion towards herself proved unexpectedly difficult, and explains why a powerful realisation doesn’t automatically become lasting change.

Listeners will hear about:

Recognising the urgency behind an automatic “yes”.

Using “Let me check my calendar and get back to you” to create breathing room.

Noticing physical tension before reacting.

Preparing for a difficult meeting without needing to feel completely calm.

Recognising small signs of progress and responding constructively to setbacks.

One question to take into the week: “If I say yes to this, what am I saying no to?”