The Discernment Pause: How to Find Your Next Step When Things Get Tense

Over the past thirteen years of coaching my clients, I’ve discovered one simple practice that consistently helps my clients lovingly move less-than-helpful parts take a backseat, reclaim the wheel of their lives, and engage challenging interpersonal dynamics effectively.

I return to this practice whenever I need to prepare for a challenging conversation. I call it the Discernment Pause.

In today’s podcast, I’ll walk you through the five steps of the Discernment Pause:

Noticing when you feel activated, and pausing.

Turning toward yourself with care and curiosity.

Getting curious about what you feel, want, and need.

Getting curious about what your situation and other people need.

Choosing your next step.

If you want clarity about anything, especially tense interpersonal dynamics, this is for you.

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