697. Why Women Don’t Want Sex—and What They Actually Want w/ Kimberly Ann Johnson

Menopause is not the end of your sexual life if you know how to handle it.

Kimberly Ann Johnson is a sexological bodyworker, birth doula, and author of The Fourth Trimester, whose new book Erotic Seasons maps what happens to a woman’s body across menstruation, mothering, perimenopause, and the years beyond.

The question driving this conversation: what does a man gain from understanding the seasons of the woman he loves?

Kimberly pushes back on the trauma language that’s become ubiquitous and often weakening. She talks about hot sex and warm sex, why the parts of the body women battle hardest are the ones that make them female, and why “calm down” is often the opposite of what a woman needs.

If you’ve ever felt the ground shifting in a long relationship and couldn’t name what was being asked of you, this is that conversation.

Free Gift: Download an exclusive additional chapter from Erotic Seasons entitled “The Body and the Belly” at kimberlyannjohnson.com/erotic-seasons

You'll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[13:30] What a man gains from understanding the women he loves

[22:31] Men overriding their own arousal to be good

[30:59] Four seasons of a woman’s life explained

[37:05] The male job is to run the perimeter