You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Married | Rachel Sussman

What if the biggest mistake in divorce recovery isn't moving too slowly, but rushing straight past the parts that actually need to heal?

Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and founder of Sussman Counseling Rachel Sussman joins the show to unpack the framework from her book, The Breakup Bible. She breaks recovery into three phases: healing, understanding, and transformation, and explains why skipping straight to the last one usually backfires.

Katherine and Rachel talk through why breakup grief can look a lot like grieving a death, how anxious and avoidant attachment patterns often show up years before a marriage ends, and why dating too early can undo months of hard work. Listen for a grounded look at what actually helps someone move forward after divorce.

What you'll learn:

Why breakup grief mirrors the grief of losing someone to deathHow to build the support system that makes recovery possibleHow to tell anxious attachment from avoidant attachment in your own patternsWhy waiting to date until you've rebuilt your identity leads to better outcomes

Highlights:

(00:00) Meet Rachel Sussman

(02:52) Why recovery works in three distinct phases

(05:49) Healing from a breakup, like healing a broken bone

(08:11) Why building a support system comes first

(13:27) What the Understanding phase actually requires

(18:09) The difference between anxious and avoidant attachment