1287: Who Do You Get to Be When You Stop Abandoning Yourself With Sabrina Zohar

"You have to love yourself so much that you love yourself more than the need to be loved by other people."

In this episode, Heather and Sabrina Zohar explore what it takes to stop abandoning yourself in the pursuit of being loved, chosen, and understood by other people. They get into the difference between boundaries and walls, why a lack of self-trust can keep you repeating the same relationship patterns, and how the chaos you learned to associate with love as a child can determine who you're attracted to as an adult. Having great relationships means learning to love yourself, and learning to love yourself means being willing to let go of the story you've been telling about who you are and what you need to do to be worthy of others' love. If you're ready to build healthier relationships without self-abandonment, this episode is for you.

What to listen for:

☑️ Taking accountability for what we continue allowing through our lack of boundaries

☑️ Feeling seen and heard and why you need to take radical accountability

☑️ Why a lack of self-trust will never yield the results you're seeking

"Boundaries are a beautiful example of, 'this is what I need and here's how I'm going to show up. If that works for you, great. And if not, that's okay.'  Walls are, 'I don't trust myself, so I have to put all of these things in front of me because I don't know how to take care of myself.'"

☑️ The difference between having boundaries and walls in relationships

☑️ Getting out of reactionary states so you can make conscious decisions

☑️ Expanding your capacity for dating when you haven't done so in a while

"The gap there is you trusting yourself enough to say, 'I can grieve and have compassion for myself if it doesn't work out, but I'm also ready to receive, and I know that I am worthy and deserving.'"

☑️ Learning to be attracted to healthy partnerships over unhealthy ones