603 - Is My Autonomy the Problem? Listener Q&A

On this episode of the Multiamory Podcast, we're answering a listener who has been polyamorous for almost two decades, is upfront with every partner that he is non-hierarchical, and keeps running into the same problem: once a new person shows up, the partner he already has wants a say in how the new relationship goes. Is it him? Is it them? What’s going on here? We're going to talk about what a partner might be asking for when they ask for "a say," and what the research says about hierarchy, autonomy and closeness.

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