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#287: 5 Hard Truths for Avoidant Attachers

#287: 5 Hard Truths for Avoidant Attachers27 okt18 min

<p><a href="https://stephanierigg.com/book" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Preorder my book, The Secure Self</a> </p><p>If you have avoidant attachment patterns (or are partnered with someone who does), today&#39;s episode offers five truths about your patterns, blind spots, and protective mechanisms that, while perhaps hard to hear, are essential learning if you ultimately want to shift towards healthier relationships. </p><p>I talk about: </p><ul><li>How the myth of the perfect partner keeps you stuck in your avoidance</li><li>Why your judgment of your partner&#39;s &quot;neediness&quot; is both unhelpful and revealing of your own suppressed emotions</li><li>How your emotions affect the relationship just as much as your partner&#39;s, albeit in different ways</li><li>The difference between being solely responsible for a partner&#39;s feelings and the reality of healthy interdependence</li><li>The importance of stretching beyond what is comfortable and natural if you want to grow</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Links</strong></p><ul><li><a href="mybook" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Preorder my book, The Secure Self</a></li><li><a href="freebies" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Free resources on attachment healing</a></li><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Follow me on Instagram</a></li></ul>