How to Raise a Kid Who WANTS to Be Good

How to Raise a Kid Who WANTS to Be Good16 okt14 min

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<p>For more resources, go to efratamira.comMy seven-year-old used to cry his way up our steep driveway every garbage day. A year later, taking the bins up and down is the job he's proudest of, and the change had nothing to do with stricter rules.Most parenting advice focuses on getting kids to behave. This episode is about a deeper goal: raising kids who want to be good, even when no one is watching.In this episode:- The two kinds of feeling good, instant gratification and fulfillment, and why we mix them up- What science says about the "quick hit," from Anna Lembke and Robert Lustig- The animal soul and the godly soul in the Tanya, and why fulfillment comes from connection- How today's "I want it now" culture works against our kids- Why wanting to be good is a muscle, and how to build it at home- Practical ideas for kids 8–11 and 12+, plus the step most parents miss- What to do when your child whines and drags their feet💬 Tell me in the comments: What's one job your child could own from start to finish that would make them feel needed?▶️ Watch next: Building a moral foundation at home → https://youtu.be/eNj-brnsZN8?si=3uJ7njMxoVJ-BtmB🌱 Go deeper:Becoming Leaders, Raising Leaders → efratamira.com/becoming-leadersCHAPTERS0:00 The driveway0:29 Behave vs. want to0:52 Two kinds of feeling good2:48 What science tells us3:27 The two souls4:30 The "I want it now" world6:04 Wanting to be good is a muscle6:56 The garbage bin story9:01 How to let them feel it10:16 Helping them notice the feeling11:06 Setting our expectations12:13 Bringing it together12:36 More keys: modeling, ownership and a moral foundationSOURCES- Anna Lembke, Dopamine Nation (2021)- Robert H. Lustig, The Hacking of the American Mind (2017)- Aknin, Hamlin & Dunn, "Giving Leads to Happiness in Young Children," PLoS ONE (2012): https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0039211- Tanya, R. Schneur Zalman of Liadi, chapters 1–2Parenting Wisdom with Efrat Amira helps parents look deeper at the parenting norms of our culture and find practical ways to raise kids differently, drawing on Jewish wisdom.#parenting #raisingkids #jewishparenting #parentingtips</p>