EP 238: Hayden and Savannah's Story

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Josh welcome Hayden and Savannah Paul, a Latter-day Saint couple married nearly seven years with three young kids. Hayden describes a pornography struggle beginning at 13, disclosure before his mission, progress with leaders, therapy, and recovery meetings, and later relapses. Savannah, raised as a “good girl,” shares how pornography-related betrayal and past trauma shaped her insecurities, yet she continued dating Hayden through repeated spiritual confirmation. After partial truths and withheld details strained their marriage, therapy led to a full disclosure session that triggered a panic attack but also created unprecedented honesty and emotional safety. They describe years of difficult conversations, a deployment that deepened reliance on Christ, lessons about honesty, impact vs. intent, boundaries, and identity healing, and Savannah’s forthcoming book, Make Me Whole.

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01:00 Sam and Josh Check In

03:29 Meet Hayden Savannah

06:59 Hayden's Pornography Origins

08:20 Mission Clarity Relapse

11:04 Dating Honesty Recovery

12:49 Savannah's Beliefs and Insecurities

15:47 Choosing Hayden

22:13 Marriage Distance Secrets

25:23 Full Disclosure Day